Insight & Growth    
Children of divorce

Most parents love their children and want to see their children not just survive divorce but thrive as they develop new strengths and maturity in coping with this life change.

Research shows several factors contribute to positive adjustment by children, including: having a positive evaluation of both parents, defining divorce as a physical separation rather than a psychological or relational separation, being able to discuss their altered family circumstances with peers, and seeing divorce as an opportunity for developing new strengths and responsibilities.  An ongoing relationship with both parents is the primary predictor of positive outcomes for children.





Research shows successful co-parenting can be accomplished when parents can incorporate these factors in their post-divorce relationship:

  • Respecting and appreciating the bond between the children      and your former spouse

  •  Remaining objective about the children�s needs during difficult periods of the divorce 

  • Empathizing with the point of view of the child and other parent

  • Shifting emotional expectations for their ex-spouse from the role of mate to that a co-parent

  • Establishing boundaries in their relationship with an ex-spouse

  • Maintaining flexibility, self-esteem, and an openness to help 

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