Most parents love
their children and want to see their children not just survive divorce
but thrive as they develop new strengths and maturity in coping with
this life change.
several factors contribute to positive adjustment by children,
including: having a positive evaluation of both parents, defining
divorce as a physical separation rather than a psychological or
relational separation, being able to discuss their altered family
circumstances with peers, and seeing divorce as an opportunity for
developing new strengths and responsibilities.
An ongoing relationship with both parents is
the primary predictor of positive outcomes for children.
successful co-parenting can be accomplished when parents can
incorporate these factors in their post-divorce relationship:
Respecting and appreciating the
bond between the children and your
objective about the childrenï¿½s needs during difficult periods of
Empathizing with the point of
view of the child and other parent
Shifting emotional expectations
for their ex-spouse from the role of mate to that a co-parent
Establishing boundaries in
their relationship with an ex-spouse
self-esteem, and an openness to help